In the ashram, the central figure is the Guru. It is not the kitchen-in charge, not the office-in-charge, not the money-in-charge, not the accountant, not even the secretary. Guru is the central figure and that Guru is not a worker. Of course, he does join you in the office and in the kitchen, but he is not a worker.
Guru is an inspirer, Guru is a transmitter and Guru is sometimes a tutor. This inspiration sometimes works through everyone.
If the gurus were to flirt a lot with their disciples and gossip endlessly, they could not transmit. They have to be alone, all by themselves. They have to practise their sadhana, strengthen their willpower and with that raised willpower they have to help the disciples, devotees and admirers who come to them.